THE DAY GOD TOOK YOU HOME
Life asked death, “Why do people love me but hate you?” Death responded, “Because you are a beautiful lie and I am a painful truth”
Whatever is born must die, whatever grows must decay. These are universal laws. Everything in the physical universe is temporary. When this fact is understood and accepted, we will begin to seek from the pain of loosing a loved one.
1. Accepting the reality of loss :
When a loved one dies, you often experience a sense that it isn’t true. The first task of grieving is to come to the realization that the person is no more, and that reuniting with them will never happen.
There is no way you can ever fully express the pain of loosing nor make others understand the pain you are enduring. It’s the day you never imagined to come this soon and the worst nightmare ever.
2. A Test from a loved one :
It’s the toughest time you have to walk alone. The loss of a loved one can test your faith.“Absense sharpens love”.
The times however you are forcefully separated and coping with the loss can be one of the most difficult test of all, but perhaps you have not lost them, after all they are part of the world and part of you as well. They remain present in your memories and in the way they have shaped you.
3. The Time to Heal :
Little by little, day by day it’s time to move on. It’s during the dark times in your life that one’s who truely care for you will step up to the mark. So reinvest it in other relationships. “Invisible tears are the hardest to wipe away”.
May be hard to wipe their tears but the desire to assist people down the path of healing is very important. They will find their own way down that path, but they need a helping hand, an assurance that they are not entirely alone on their journey.
The question “tell me how you are feeling” followed by a patient and attentive ear will seem like a major blessing to the grief striken. Be present, show that you love, care and listen. Tears and anger are an important part of healing process. People need to talk a lot about the death of their loved one. So be a good listener. The more they talk, the more they process the reality.
“You should be over it now”. Don’t be judgemental. There is no time span for completing the grief process.
4. “Forever” is a hard concept :
Whoever said loss gets easier with time was a liar. Here’s what really happens, the space between time you miss them grow longer. Love leaves a memory no one can steal, but death leaves a heartache no one can heal.
A million times you would have needed them, a million times you would have cried. If love alone could have saved them, they never would have died. In life you loved them dearly, in death you love them more. Still in your heart they hold a place no one else can ever fill it. It broke your heart to lose them, but they didn’t go alone part of you went with them.
5. It’s just another day without you :
Days will pass and turn into years, but they will be remembered in your laugh, in your sorrow, in silence, on every occasion, each night after morning before sleep in your dreams, in every breath, at every step in your life. Their smile will always linger in your heart. Those who you love don’t go away, they walk beside you everyday, unseen, unheard but always near, still loved, still missed and very dear.
God didn’t promise days without pain, laughter without sorrow, or sun without rain. He did promise strength for the day, comfort for the tears and light for the way. If God brings you to it, he will bring you through it.
6. Always loved forever missed :
There are moments in life when you could bring someone down from the heaven, spend the day with them just one more day, one more time, one more conversation, one more chance to make up for the time when you thought they would be here forever, one more sunset, one more hug, kiss them adieu or hear the voice again. One more chance to say we love them.
So finally, I learnt death is not the greatest loss in life…. Loss is when life dies inside you while you are alive…. Celebrate the event called “Life”.
You don’t know when it’s day to heaven so take chances, smile like you never cried, value the one who loves you, spend money on things you like, laugh till your stomach hurts, dance even if are too bad at it, pose stupidly, be child like, be you!!! Because we don’t know when our journey ends.
The day God took you home, he broke your heart to prove that he only takes the best. In the remembrance of all who is taken by God .